This is Mine! Don't Dare To Touch It!!

CASE  STUDY

This is Mine! Don't Dare To Touch It!!

 

 

Dear most respected Phra Dej Phra Khun Luang Phaw

The first legal wife is the position that no woman wishes for but my husband appointed me to it. It became my personal post that I didn’t have any desire for. I felt that there was no happiness happening since then. The word “brain vs emotion” would possibly be the best description of my feelings at that time. Then I have found the Dhamma medicine from you that healed my heart and encouraged me until it became a universal happiness. I opened my house as a beauty salon and I was a Jill of all trades, I am the owner, the only hairdresser, the cleaner and the cashier too.

My business flourished gradually until I had to hire a hairdresser to help out.  Then from beautifying she became a trouble maker.Because I noticed that my husband’s behaviour has changed. He started to have feelings for her as for her she seemed to be likewise. I asked my husband plainly whether he loved her. He confessed openly that he did. At that moment I was saddened, I felt like the kite swirling in the air as the string broke. When I gained my composure I asked him what was missing in me, why did he want another woman, didn’t he love me anymore. He said I was a good person there was nothing wrong with me at all and he still loved me but he couldn’t explain why he loved another woman. His words brought me so much pain because I loved him with all my heart and he also said that he felt likewise but he still had some space in his heart for another woman.

Anyone that doesn’t know how marriage brings pain, please listen to this! I had a face-to-face talk with 3 of us. I started to ask her directly if she loved my husband, she accepted that she loved him. As I wanted to settle amicably with everyone I told my husband in front of her that I gave permission to him to have her but with 3 conditions:

1. that he must not show that she was another wife.
2. that they must live in the same house with me and they are not permitted to live elsewhere.  
3. they must not let my daughter, his friends including the relatives know about this.

Since then I knew how it felt like to suppress the feelings and where to keep them because I had to carry on normally. I could not show that the girl that worked in my house was my husband’s concubine. Sometimes when it was too much I had to helplessly cry out aloud in secret. My stress increased so much that I suffered from incurable migraine but it was as if the suffering was ending and joining with the beginning of happiness because even though my house is very close to the bus stop of Wat Phra Dhammakaya’s white bus, I’ve never pay any attention to it before.

Now I became interested in people wearing white getting on the white bus. I followed them to Wat Phra Dhammakaya for the first time in 1973. At first I went there once in a while but as the problems in the family kept swarming on me, I came to the temple every Sunday because I thought that only the merit could help me. One day the migraine became so severe that I couldn’t go to the temple.

The following Sunday a Kalyanamitta (virtuous friend) that knew about my migraine introduced me to aunt Boaphanh who touched me on my shoulder and said my nerves were very tense. Had I come later, my mouth would be misshaped. She then massaged to relax the nerves until my headache was gone. Oh! the merit made me meet an effective healer. In the meantime my husband started to have problems with his other woman because she wanted a share of his salary which he only gave it all to me. But he couldn’t give any to her because there were already so many bills to pay every month. And due to her mesmerizing manner, not for too long she had another man. She severed the relationship with my husband. Their love was so ephemeral like a mirage. So my husband and her was a couple of shame only. That reduced my stress and the migraine was decreasing accordingly.

As for my husband seeing that I didn’t hold anything against him, he took the opportunity to have another woman. This time I became very angry. I wanted to tell the new woman  “ This is my husband! …Girly! I punished him by becoming distant to him and carried on as if he didn’t exist in the house. I didn’t talk and didn’t pay any attention to him at all for 7 days. That time he became stressed out and he also had other problems. He was so strained that he had blood in his bowels. His body became pale and he had hemorrhage in his stomach. That time it was his turn to want to talk to me.
 
I put my anger aside and rushed him to the hospital. The doctor observed his condition and said that if the bleeding didn’t stop, he had to operate on my husband. During that time I advised my husband to meditate while lying down and to think of you and Khun Yay. He followed my instruction and felt asleep. He said later that he saw you; Luang Phaw Dattjeevo and Khun Yay came to visit him. At 10pm the doctor came in to check his condition, it was very strange because there was no blood in the stomach at all. All the doctors were stunted, finally my husband didn’t need to be operated on and recovered immediately that night. It could be considered that the unreal overlapped on the factual. That made my husband gained swift and immediate faith.

He offered 3.7 ounces worth of gold towards the casting of the golden statue of Luang Puu on the day of the casting in 1994. Around 1998 a monk that I respected informed me about the merit in casting the personal Buddha statue for the centre of the cetiya with a contribution of 30,000 bahts each.

At that time I had a commission of 90,000 Bahts from my direct sale business. I said to my husband that I liked to cast the Buddha statue, which he agreed to. I was very happy. From then I was making other merits including the Kathina when Khun Yay reached 84 years old which I contributed 1S for it, 1S for the refectory and 2S for the crystal pillar. Then I went to a meditation retreat at Panawat and also saw a miraculous crystal sun. I felt so delighted that I could see it even though I was not at the temple.

One afternoon in the assembly hall in 2001 while you were guiding meditation, before I closed my eyes, I saw the golden statue of Luang Puu floating above the dome of the Maha Dhammakaya cetiya. I was so happy, I giggled mirthfully like a fish in the water. I nudged my daughter to look and others also saw it. We ran out to see it. But you scolded and told us to come back and sat where we were, you said that the real thing was there, Luang Puu knew what was appropriate, he wouldn’t disrupt the function, if we didn’t believed that we could leave the temple. Normally I never saw you reproaching that way before.

My father was a public servant in the district of Savarnkalok, Sukothai province. He was a high rank officer. At that time it was comparable to the chief district position. He was very well respected.  When people needed something they had to ask for his help because the status during that era worth more than wealth as per a saying 10 merchants were not equal to one officer. But now it is the opposite. Father had a habit of drinking alcohol heavily and he brewed illegal spirit for selling. He died of old age when he was 83 because his last piece of food blocked his windpipe; he suffocated and couldn’t breathe then passed away.
 
My mother was a kind and meritorious person. She listened to the sermons and went to the temple all the time. She passed away of old age after she had her last mouthful of food, her neck dropped and died at the age of 93. My eldest brother was a policeman. The day that he was passing away, he lowered himself in a sitting position on a chair. At that time the firearm that he had attaching at his waist dropped and hit the floor. It got triggered by itself and the bullet went straight behind and through his heart. He died instantly.  

My second brother was selling alcohol to the hill tribes in Tak province when he was alive. He passed away due to swollen alveolus disease because he smoked heavily. 3 days after he died I told my sister-in-law to cast the Buddha statue and dedicate the merit to him.

Questions

1.    What retribution made my husband have other women and how did those women, my husband and I related to each other? How could I rectify this so that the retribution would not follow me to the next life? Do I have to accrue special merit and how should I do that?

2.    What is the difference in retribution as I allowed my husband to have another wife compared to men that had concubines but didn’t reveal it to the legal wife?

3.    What retribution made me suffer from migraine and how could I rectify it? What merit made me meet an effective healer, is my migraine curable? What are the different causes between having migraine headache on one side to both side?

4.    What kamma made my husband bleed in the stomach and what caused him to dream of you; Luang Phaw Dattajeevo and Khun Yay? What made him recover? Was it related to his dream?

5.    What was that I saw the golden statue of Luang Puu in 2001? When you said the real thing was there, Luang Puu knew what was appropriate and if we didn’t believe we should get out of the temple? Was there any way to differentiate which one is really a miracle so that would benefit the next generation and that they wouldn’t do anything unsuitable?
 
6.    What causes did father contribute for him to be born with high status in the era that people paid more respect to those with high status than those with wealth?

And what caused the people who have high status or wealth to be born in the era when status or wealth is highly regarded and vice versa?

7.    Before my parents passed away what were their vision? Where did they go after they passed away? Have they received the merit that I dedicated to them? Do they have any message for me?

8.    What caused the firearm to trigger contributing to my eldest brother’s death and where did he go after he passed away?

9.    What was my 2nd brother vision before he passed away? Where did he go? Does he have any message for his family?

Three days after he died, my sister-in-law cast a Buddha statue and dedicated the merit to him, did he receive it and did it improve his condition?

10.    In the last Buddha’s aeon how did my husband and I pursue perfection with the Dhammakaya community and what were our meditation results?

 

Luang Phaw's Dream

I closed my eyes, dreamed and woke up with these answers.
When you tell anybody the story like a tale, it will make anyone know more about retribution (Law of Kamma)

1.    Your husband had other women, this was a new kamma of your husband and of other women, but it is your past kamma when you were born as a man, you were unfaithful and had another wife in the house and the legal first wife also reluctantly agreed to it like yourself in the present time!

• To rectify it you should forgive and accrue every merit and resolve to get away from this retribution!

 

2.    Your husband had another woman with your permission, his retribution will be different from the unfaithful one who hid his misdeed from his legal wife,     i.e. your husband will have much less retribution as he broke the moral but he didn’t break the precept because you allowed him to do so. If your husband became a woman due to the adultery kamma from the previous life this will be a “reinforcing kamma” that made her allowed her husband to have another wife in the house likewise.
 

• But in case the unfaithful husband keeps the truth from his legal wife, this is considered as he truly breaks the 3rd precept i.e. that would make him go to unhappy realm as in the mini series!
   
  

3.   You suffered from migraine mainly because of the stress that you had to suppress your anger as you saw the concubine in your home!

• The merit that you accrued with the Dhammakaya community made you meet effective healer and it can be curable if you make yourself happy, keep your body healthy and also give donation, observe the precepts and meditate until you see the Buddha within!

• Headache occurs due to various causes and numerous kammas, some are from the physical complaints and some are from the mind whether it is a headache on one side or both!

4.    Your husband had hemorrhage in the stomach but later recovered because of the stress that you didn’t talk to him and also due to the kamma of drinking alcohol in the present life but he recovered due to the meditation and the merit accumulated with the Dhammakaya community.

• He dreamed of the masters because he had merit connection with our community and the masters!

5.    The golden statue of Luang Puu that others and you saw in 2001 was a meritorious image caused by your faith in Luang Puu!  

• But some didn’t see and some saw along with you. The power of Luang Puu happens all the time but wouldn’t disrupt the assembly of the community like on that day when the ceremony to pay homage to the master was on!

6.    Your father was born and had high status in the era that people gave high regards to status more than to wealth because he had merit from being respectful towards virtuous people, clergies and elders with humility mainly but he donated less. Those actions came to fruition!

• For the people who have more wealth than high status because they made merit by giving more donations than with humility!  
  

• Whether one is born in any era and endowed with everything this is due to the merit accrued according to the right principle within the 10 meritorious activities for instance!
  
  

7.    After he passed away, your father went to Yomaloka (purgatory)  of the 5th major hell due to the kamma from brewing spirit and drinking alcohol.  

• He didn’t go to the major hell because he had the merit from social assistance and the merit that he made according to the tradition!
• He has received the merit dedicated to him, that reduced the punishment and he would like to get away from the kamma in the purgatory!

• After your mother passed away, she was reborn as a beautiful female angel with a golden abode in phase 3 of Tavatimsa (the second level of heaven) due to the merit she regularly made in Buddhism according to the tradition.
• She has received the merit dedicated to her and that increased her divine wealth! At the moment she said she is very happy and thank you for the merit dedicated to her!

8.    Your elder brother died as the firearm triggered because of the kamma from Visamankatakamma (defensive killing or killing according to the duty) and from other killing kamma in the past and present life!

• After death he went to the 1st major hell due to a dull mind because of the retribution from the killing kamma that he used to killed humans!
  
• He is being shot by the denizen of hell. He was dead and reborn incalculable times! You should dedicate the merit to him frequently and the merit will wait for him in yomaloka (purgatory).
  
  

9.    After death, your 2nd brother went to the 5th major hell straightaway due to the kamma from brewing, selling and drinking alcohol. That made his mind very dull. The merit dedicated to him later hasn’t taken actions yet, it was waiting for him in Yomaloka (purgatory). He will receive it when he got out of the major hell and got to purgatory!

• He doesn’t have any message for the family as he is being forced to drink the black molten acid liquid, he is in constant agony! But you should dedicate the merit to him frequently. This merit will wait for him in Yomaloka  (purgatory).

10.    You and your husband were supporters of our community in the last Buddha’s era. Sometimes you barely did it, sometimes you did according to your ability and sometimes you did it intensively! 

• You and your husband were husband and wife like in this life! You attained a clear sphere in your meditation that allowed you to go back to Tusita.
• As for your husband he also had the same result and went back to Tusita but in this life he is more reckless than the previous life because he does the meditation in his old age. Therefore he had to hurry to meditate so that he could go back to Tusita!
  
  

• Since you’ve met the Dhammakaya community in this life, be determined to pursue perfection intensively in every merit and resolve to follow the community to Tusita (the Fourth level of heaven)in the special merit zone, the Borom Bodhisatta area and never stray away from our community!

 

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