Dear most respected Luang Phaw, I would like to ask a question about the circumstance that there might be false allegation made against us without any truth in it. How should we take it?

by Venerable Dhattajeevo Bhikku
First we need to understand the meaning of ‘false
allegation’. It means when we are right but they think it’s wrong or we are
doing good deeds but they said it is bad we call this false allegation.
More than that with the allegation, even they know that we
are neither wrong nor bad but they still lay blame on us for doing or being so.
Let’s go right into their mind. Why do they do this to us or why us? There must
be two main reasons:
The first rationale is conflict of interest that upset them.
The second grounds is ill will because we did something they
dislike therefore they want to destroy us with wrong accusation.
Oh! There
is another reason. This happened to me once. After the matter was clarified, I
asked the other party forthrightly of why this happened. He told me that it was
because he just did not like me. Well, things happened.
Once we found the three explanations, keep observing and
don’t rush to do anything yet. You have to see how far the damage will go.
Whether it is among a small circle i.e. it is affecting the family or up to the
office scale or worst than that it will affect the public like those high
authorities in the public service and in politics such as some Prime Ministers
or Ministers.
Alright, as there is an allegation and they know we are not
wrong, we are not bad. To rectify this we have to get to the point. If it is
due to conflict of interest, there should be consultation and compromise, which
can change the situation to the better or from something serious to something
bearable, which can bring about a small disadvantage but it can be agreeable so
the matter can be finalized. In some case it’s better to stop the matter before
hand even it will result in a small loss, go ahead and finish with it.
In case of ill will, it’s a little bit hard. Maybe beg for forgiveness. But apparently as
we are not in the wrong we don’t know why we need to apologize. In this case
consultation might be fruitless.
The third reason is about being annoyed, not jealousy but very close to it. It is like they are annoyed because you are more beautiful. It was not jealousy but it is bothering and they didn’t want to look at you. So why not dump all the rubbish on you.
For example your business is flourishing more than theirs or
their friends or their ancestors without any conflict of interest and it is not
even jealousy but it bothers them.
For the
3rd situation, it probably has to be what our ancestors taught us -
to be considerate, to be polite and to be humble, that could help rectify the
situation. But if we let the feeling goes on until it becomes jealousy. Then it
is again hard. But in conclusion, no matter which situation, what we have to do
when there is an allegation is to first check ourselves to see whether there is
any fault or damage in our doing. If there is and even though it is minimal try
to mend it. Otherwise it would give them a change to overstate the matter.
Secondly recite this: endurance. This mantra is wonderful.
Keep enduring. It is as we are under the sky. We may need the strong sun to dry
our clothes but when it rains, what do we do? We have to put up with it. When
there is bad circumstance we have to bear with it and we might comfort
ourselves that we did the same to them in the past lives. Today they are taking
the repayment. As we think this way we could comfort ourselves to a certain
level.
At the same time we should try to find out what causes of
the situation i.e. whether it was because of conflict of interest or ill will
or we bothered them. When we have found out the reason then try to reconcile and
work out for mutual interest. Try to solve the problems step by step. If it was
the misunderstanding within the family then resolves in the family, the same
goes for the office level or if it happened to the public level then resolve
accordingly. Certainly on this level it is a little bit harder.
What need to consider are:
1. Don’t use violence, it will become increasingly
complicated
Don’t flee because if you fled and were downhearted it meant
you lost the case. It is as if you accepted that you were bad as they said.
Beware!
What’s more, diligently do good deeds and tolerate. What is
doing a good deed?. It is to fulfill our duties within rules and regulations so
as not to give them opportunity to attack us. Don’t take anything lightly. Be
meticulous. It is like a boxer on guard, false allegation is just a jab, it
can’t knock you down.
Apart from being thorough in our job, in addition you need
to accrue a lot of merit for the mass or the public or anyone involved so that
they can testify that you are really a good person. This time you need to show
to the world that you are good and it is necessary. Then radiate love and
kindness to people. Don’t breed ill will.