The people who have the bad habit of not wanting anybody to
do well. Hum! How bad is it, how can it be rectified? You need to find the core
of how it starts?
The jealousy started in a person who has less goodness or
knowledge or capability than others for if one has more one doesn’t have to get
jealous of others. Or they want to be better than others but they couldn’t be.
Then instead of improving oneself to be equal or better, they think wrongly and
badly. They don’t do good deeds but put people down due to misunderstanding and
become jealous i.e. doesn’t want anybody to be better off instead.
Now when you know that there is little good within them.
These reflect that the mind of these jealous people’s is dark. They can’t think
creatively. They only can think of destroying and harming others. Be destroying
wealth, reputation and harming others mentally and physically. Their mind is
drifting to these thoughts only.
Therefore these people’s mind will be dull all day. As their
mind is dull their speech would be disheartening i.e. they always have bad
words coming from their mouth. They can’t say anything pleasant. They only blow
out poison, and this replicate on their reactions. They only have bad stories,
bad manner and twisted face. This is the reaction of people with little merit
and they don’t think of accruing merit but always think of hurting people.
Now as they only think, talk and act badly. What would
happen to them? Well, they have very little goodness in them and they don’t
think of increasing good worth. On the contrary they increase mercilessness
then their demerit keeps increasing it is like they are burning themselves
every day. This is the negative result of jealousy.
Therefore when you have jealous feeling in your mind, put a
stop to it right away. How do you stop yourself? By realizing that you are not
so good because in the previous and present life you haven’t done enough good
deeds. If you remind yourself this way there are ways to rectify this because
you are on the right track.
Well what will you do? When you know that you have little
merit, let’s accrue merit! How?
1. Work wise, whether it’s to earn a living or to accomplish
any job allocated by the community, whether you are monks or lay people, every
one has personal task at hand, do your best.
Then not only that you have to improve yourself. But again
no matter how hard you have tried you still can’t compare yourself to others.
Well! There is an easy way out just nicely ask for know how from them. This
will help you to improve yourself faster; it helps you to not to go to hell!
Then you turn to the temple to study Dhamma and practice
meditation. Or previously you never give donations, let’s do it, the same
applies with following the precepts and meditation. And find out from your
respected monks what the result of accruing merit is. Generosity induces
wealth; you gain beauty through observation of precepts and intelligence
through meditation. Let’s hold onto these principles.
Later if you need to know more then keep asking your
respected monks. For example when you think you have everything but you still
feel jealous because you don’t have followers. You are the wealthiest and good
looking but not loved. Instead of asking yourself to why people don’t love you,
you get angry at the people and become jealous of celebrities. Please don’t
think this way. Ask the right question of what is wrong in me that people don’t
like. And start to check yourself. If you can’t find it, ask your respected monks.
There are 4 principles that the Lord Buddha taught to make
people love us
1. Be generous, it’s not only giving alms to monks but it
means to share what we have to eat or to use including sharing the popularity
not that we are the only one to gain good reputation.
2. To talk in an endearing way. It doesn’t cost anything
Simply speaking:
1. We share what we have
2. Use the endearing way to talk to people because to
encourage people there is no other way than positive words and vice versa. Kept
checking the way we communicate then we will find out.
3. Whatever knowledge or ability we have, use it to help out
others. It is the best way to be loved.
The 4th principle is be sincere to anyone and
don’t be a back stabbing, be only truthful and provide safety. Simply speaking
it is to gain love through generosity, speak kindly and positively and also
provide safety if it doesn’t work nothing will.
This is only an example, for more details you need to find
out from your respected monks. They will guide you as to how to accrue merit.
Then you will come back and ask me how come people are jealous of you now.
Please tell them then that you were like that before and how you corrected it.
Let them know how to do it then it will be your merit.
