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3. Politeness Politeness is shown in the way one sits, lies down, stands and walks. One cannot sit, lie down, stand or walk properly because... • One’s things are not organized in an orderly fashion. • Without orderliness, one’s thought process goes awry. • The thought process goes awry because one’s body is dirty from one’s head to one’s toes. Speech is derived from one’s thought process. Speech is used as a means of communication. It allows others to understand what one is thinking. Polite speech begins with the ability to organize one’s words. For example, • Words that are used to communicate with one’s children cannot be used to communicate with one’s father. • Words that are used to communicate with one’s friends cannot be used to communicate with one’s boss. • Words that are used to communicate with one’s friends cannot be used to communicate with the Buddhist monks. • The tender way spouses talk to each other cannot be used with other people. The root cause of conflicts in the office and at home, divorce, broken home is self-indulgence. A self-indulgent person does not care about other people. He cares only about what he wants. He cares only about his own ease and comfort. He lacks motivation and commitment. Self-indulgent husband and wife lack motivation and commitment. Their children lack motivation and commitment. Everyone is into self-indulgence. One dresses any way one likes. One behaves any way one likes.