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After one gets married, the foundation of one's life lies in sacrifice for each other. If ever we become selfish towards each other, it will be followed by divorce or murder. Sacrifice in marriage is sacrifice in order to care for the body and the mind. It is support for the body and the mind. And as a result, the marriage will be a happy one. Caring for each other physically means using the family's income wisely, spending for household necessities, sharing, and sacrificing one's happiness. Caring for each other mentally means knowing how to be considerate on a daily basis, being able to support others in times of crisis, being able to warn others when they become careless, and being able to be honest at all times. A couple that can take care of each other physically and mentally in this way will always sacrifice for the benefit of the family, such as with material objects, comfort, and bad moods. A harmonious environment will reside in the family as a result. Therefore, for a family to have a stable foundation, family members must have sacrifice as the fourth habit. With these four factors of Dhamma for Laypersons (Gharavas-dhamma), anyone contemplating finding a spouse, getting married, having a family, or anyone currently having family problems, must have the Dhamma for Laypersons as a foundation. Truthfulness, self-control, endurance, and sacrifice are the heart of the family. It is the vital heart that family members must have with them at all times in order for a family's foundation to be stable from the beginning. Then, all family problems, such as suspicion, not keeping up with the world, not keeping up with people, surrendering to defilements, being tired of each other, and selfishness, will definitely not occur. The heart of the family will then beat continuously and powerfully. The Warm Hearted Family 38 The Heart of the Family The Warm Hearted Family 39 The Heart of the Family