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The children will believe that "when you do something good you will receive good in return" is false; and "when you misbehave you à receive good in return" is true. When these children grow up they will tend to continuously do bad things. Their misbehavior will cause endless distress to society. Parents must acknowledge the consequences of providing misguided support to their children. Do not show children love through indulgence. If they make a mistake, parents must discipline them. It is better for the children to suffer a little now rather than letting them suffer throughout their lives. Therefore, if parents do not take their children's side when the children have done wrong, the children will learn that doing good deeds will definitely yield good consequences. If they do bad deeds, they will have to suffer the inevitable unpleasant consequences. Understand the Parameters in Developing Correct Habits In order to instill virtues in children, parents must understand that there are two methods for developing habits in children. The first method is to develop the personality traits based on heredity. The transfer of personality traits must occur at the very beginning, before the baby's arrival. In order for a conception to take place, the child must have a combination of good and bad kamma that is comparable to the people who will become his parents. So, if the parents are healthy, good, and kind-hearted, there is a good chance that the conception of a child will take place in the mother's womb. Teaching the baby should begin before the pregnancy and it requires the parents to maintain wholesomeness in body, speech and mind. Eliminate all bad behaviors and observe the Five Precepts diligently in preparation for the conception of the child. At the very least, the new parents must begin training themselves well before entering the marriage. As soon as they realize that the wife is pregnant, they should try even harder to attend to the fetus. They must become even more attentive to their actions, whether it is walking, moving, consuming food, (especially the spicy kind), consuming alcohol of all sorts, taking medicine, or even displaying a bad temperament. The parents have to make sure that these things do not affect them because they have a tendency to influence the baby's behavior. The second method is to develop the personality traits influenced by the environment or through discipline. You should start teaching your baby the day he opens his eyes to the world. Do not think that the baby is too young to Killing with Kindness: Parents Defending The Warm Hearted Family. 120 Children When They Misbehave The Warm Hearted Family 121 Killing with Kindness: Parents Defending Children When They Misbehave