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180. BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL Learn to do things right. Learn to be clean and tidy. People will see your behavior and set you as a good example. There will always be new people coming to the temple. I cannot always be present to teach or to show them how to do things. After I am gone you can be their example. Practice good behavior and teach others to do the same. July 18, 1981 181. GIVE UP BAD HABITS Break your bad habits in this life and you will not have them in the next life. If in the next life you still retain the same undesirable behavior, it will be because you did not heed this advice. July 18, 1981 182. USE KIND SPEECH Addressing volunteers at the temple: Kind words are better than harsh speech. Kind words engender respect and cooperation from the person you are speaking to, rather than fear. If people fear you, they will not want to help you in the future. Then your work will be slow, and since they did not help you do well they will miss the opportunity to gain merit. Disagreements should be addressed civilly and sensitively, and people will be willing to learn from you. Then we will accomplish our work and they will also gain merit. November 11, 1980 183. DESIRE GIVES RISE TO SUFFERING Desire is the source of suffering. Whether it is desire for wealth, beauty, or fame, they all lead to unhappiness. Because I have no desire for these things, I have no suffering.