Understanding Family Dynamics: Issues of Foolishness and Disconnection : หน้า 10/207

**Page 1:** Problem #2: The problem of foolishness, of not keeping up with the world, people, and of surrendering to defilements. This problem occurs when people's intelligence, knowledge and ability are not at the same level. It is called foolishness. Some people's actions and thoughts cannot keep up with the actions and thoughts of other family members. This will prevent them from being able to keep up with the ever changing world. The major cause of this lag is not due to foolishness per se, but is because other family members are constantly adapting to new situations and those who lag behind refuse to adapt to changes or improve their situations. They stagnate and remain with what they are accustomed to. And the others have a difficult time pulling them along. These types of people blame their situations on their lack of luck, feelings of inferiority in the family, or they feel hurt that their parents, spouse or children do not love them. This will surely bring disagreement and create family problems. **Problem #3: The problem of being tired of each other.** The problem of being tired of each other can also be referred to as *Being Tired of People.* --- **Page 2:** A judge in Chiang Mai, Thailand once spoke about a case that took place some time ago concerning a young adult who was under 18 years of age. This young adult had broken the law, and the court sentenced him to juvenile detention for punishment and evaluation. As soon as the court handed down the sentence, the parents began to cry and asked to take him home to train him themselves. No matter how delinquent children are, their parents will always love them and worry about them. They want to take care of and correct their children’s behavior by themselves. They don’t trust anyone else to take care of their children because they are afraid that no one else can take care of their children as well as they can. However, today, when young adults break the law and have to go to court, the parents are asked, "Your child broke the law. What do you want to do?" The parents quickly answer, "It’s up to the court. Let the court do what it wants. We are so sick and tired of him. We don’t know what to do with him anymore." As one can see, this situation has clearly changed. In modern day society, there are *people who are tired of their own children.* Even members of the same family must be careful not to allow tiredness to develop. Within your family, if one member does something wrong and the other family members are tired