Understanding the Beauty of Mind and the Role of Marriage Counselors : หน้า 25/207

that warn, "Sweet words are more devastating" or "Sweet beginning, bitter ending" or "Sweet mouth, sour bottom." 4th Level: Beauty of Mind - This is the beauty of the virtue within a person, which can be expressed through the many aspects of all the responsibilities that person has. We can measure how responsible a person is through these three fundamental aspects: 1) Use of the four requisites, which are clothing, food, shelter and medicine. 2) Daily activities 3) Job responsibilities. By observing a person's habit through these three aspects, we can evaluate whether a person is quite responsible or negligent. Only a responsible person can have a beautiful mind and morality. This especially applies to a person who possesses Dhamma for Laypersons, which is composed of truthfulness, self-discipline, endurance, and sacrifice. Importance of a Marriage Counselor The beauty of a person has four levels, but the most difficult level to observe is the Beauty of Mind, since it is all about the morality that a person possesses. To discover that, we need to rely on persons who have experienced the life of a marriage. In other word, having a family also requires a teacher or coach who can give advice on various family issues. In the old days, those who wanted to get married would have an elder to help them with the proposed marriage. Although their services are still in use today, few people know the true meaning and role of an elder. "An elder" refers to a person who has a high level of virtue and is well-respected by the community. A person who becomes an elder must be highly virtuous, which brings them great respect by the majority of the people. They have many virtues because their own marriages embodied the four important factors of a marriage: 1) They must truly embrace Dhamma for Laypersons, otherwise they will not be a reliable source for themselves and their family. 2) They must be able to identify another person's behavior by observing that person through the consumption of the four requisites, their daily activities and their responsibility on the job. Otherwise, they will not be able to find a suitable spouse with great virtue, one that family members will fully accept and respect.