Dhamma for Laypersons: Building a Stable Family : หน้า 12/207

Although the solution is not simple, that does not mean there is no path to correct and prevent them from occurring. If each person realizes what the heart of the family is and everyone takes the best possible care of the family's heart, the problems will be resolved in the end. The Lord Buddha gave a Dhamma discourse pertaining to a method that can be utilized as a basis for daily life and a means of establishing a stable family. It is known as "Dhamma for Laypersons." Composed of four parts, it is considered to be the heart of a stable family: 1. Truthfulness or sacca 2. Self-control or dama 3. Endurance or khanti 4. Sacrifice or caga In general, if our hearts are still beating, then we are still alive. But whenever family members possess Dhamma for Laypersons, then the family's heart will continue to beat as well. All the aforementioned problems will not happen at all. There will only be a stable family with warmth and harmony that will increase with each passing day. Composed of four parts, what is the importance of Dhamma for Laypersons? How does it guide a family to correct and prevent daily family dilemmas? The Lord Buddha illustrated the answers, which are as follows: 1) Truthfulness or sacca will solve the problem of suspicion. Sacca means truthfulness, sincerity and a strong sense of trust towards each other. If these words are expressed in this way, some people may not understand the concept clearly. However, if the concept is explained in a way that allows people to put it into practice, truthfulness means responsibility or the act of being responsible. In analyzing how a family operates, each member's sense of responsibility is the most important element. If a family member lacks responsibility, then suspicion among family members will be the immediate result. By the same token, if a person wants to get married, the first characteristic that should be evaluated is the potential spouse's sense of responsibility. The bride and the groom both must recognize if the other is responsible enough to experience a family's life, death, success, and failures. A person who is truthful exhibits responsibility in these four ways: The Warm Hearted Family 22 The Heart of the Family The Warm Hearted Family 23 The Heart of the Family