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Those who have full knowledge, ability and goodness must follow only this path in order to train themselves to keep up with the world and its people, and not surrender to defilements. Surely, if you follow this road, you will have to go against your will, you will need to control your mind, and sometimes you will hurt your mind, just as if you were suffering from a bleeding heart. The reason that you must control your mind and go against your will is because if a type of training cannot change one's habits, it cannot be considered self-training. For example, if you are unable to change a habit like snacking, which is not easy to do, or unable to change a habit like sleeping in, using unpleasant words when speaking, or talking back to your parents, you have to find the right method to correct yourself, including training yourself to not be careless. This is not easy to do so. For some of us, it may take our entire lives to correct these bad habits, and we are not even counting the more serious habits of drinking, jealousy and gambling. Therefore, for a family to have a strong foundation, the family members must have self-control or dama as the second habit. 3) Endurance or khanti corrects the problems of people being tired of each other. Khanti means endurance. Why must we have endurance? We must have endurance because if someone wants to increase goodness within themselves, that person must have endurance to exchange with goodness. Having been born as humans, what do we have to endure? The answer is there are 4 areas of endurance that are part of our human condition: 3.1) We must endure a natural environment that is not favorable to us, such as the sun's strong rays, heavy wind and rain, etc. 3.2) We must endure suffering, which means, we must endure the unfavorable conditions that our physical body experiences, such as sickness, without creating an uproar or excessive complaints. 3.3) We must endure conflict, which means, we must endure other people. The truth is that we must accept that we have weaknesses which we have displayed, feelings we have that go against our will, and events that do not go as planned. In particular, when we work quickly, or when we require meticulousness, The Warm Hearted Family 28 The Heart of the Family The Warm Hearted Family The Heart of the Family