King Pasantikosol and Lady Visakha's Wisdom : หน้า 41/207
The Warm Hearted Family : หน้า 41/207 Explore the historical significance of Sakethu and the wise wedding advice given by Lady Visakha's father, emphasizing family values and generosity.
In ancient times, when reaching Magadha, Tanachai requested King Pasantikosol to establish a new town named Sakethu due to its convenience for his large retinue. The significance of this town is noted in Indian history. Lady Visakha, a key figure from a wealthy family in Magadha, received valuable wedding advice from her father, emphasizing the importance of family integrity, generosity, respect, and proper conduct within the household. His suggestions highlighted the significance of supporting relatives, maintaining family dignity, and ensuring a harmonious family environment.
หัวข้อประเด็น
-History of Sakethu -Advice for marriage by Lady Visakha's father -Family values in Buddhist culture -Role of wealth in ancient societies -Respect within family dynamics
ข้อความต้นฉบับในหน้า
When they reached Magadha, which was 112 kilometers
from the capital of Kosol, Tanachai asked King Pasantikosol,
"The city is small and I have a large number of retinue with
me. It will be inconvenient to live in the city. I request
permission to build a new town in this comfortable part of the
county." The king granted his request and Tanachai developed
a new town named Sakethu. This name of this town can be
found in Indian history and it still exists today.
Lady Visakha also had a grandfather whose name was
Menataka who was one of the richest men in Magadha. Her
family had a very important role in the economy of both
counties during the time of the Lord Buddha.
Ten Suggestions From a Father
to His Daughter on Her Wedding Day
When she came of age Lady Visakha was to be married
to the son of another family in Kosol. Her father gave her the
following advice.
1. Do not let the internal fire become external. Do not
reveal any family problems for the people outside the family
to know.
2. Do not let the external fire come within. This means
to not bring external problems into the house.
3. Give to those who give to us. If we are capable of
helping those who need it, we should. Then, if they are capable,
we may rely on their help if we are in need.
4. Do not give to those who give nothing to us. If you
are taken advantage of by people to whom you offered
assistance, or if they refuse to help you when you are in need,
then do not help them again and do not rely on their help in
the future.
5. Whether they give or not, be generous to our relatives.
If our relatives have fallen on hard times and seek your help,
you should help them even though they may never return the
things we lend them. They are still our relatives.
6. Make sure that the food is amenable. One should
make sure that the meals served to the family are wholesome
and that the relatives are taken care of when it comes to food.
7. Find an appropriate place to sit. This means one must
know and show the proper level of respect. For example, it
would be disrespectful to sit on a higher place than one's
mother-in-law. Showing appropriate respect at the dinner table
will allow for a peaceful mealtime.
8. Find an appropriate place to sleep. One should make
sure that the sleeping area for each person in the family is
appropriate. Be prepared to rise before anyone in the family
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The Mother of Great Kindness within the House
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The Mother of Great Kindness within the House