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Children often encounter problems later in life because the parents did not fulfill these responsibilities. Why Do Some Children Behave Badly? Our ancestors provided us with a very interesting answer. "The parental skills we find today are a cause for concem. Let's not even worry about their inability to teach their children to avoid bad deeds and only do good deeds because some parents can't even discern right from wrong, good from bad, and merit from sin. Some are even engaging in bad behavior in front of their children to witness. This is the scariest part of it all." Do Not Leave Teaching to Only the Teachers Our ancestors stated: "Some parents are capable of separating good from bad, but do not impart that knowledge to their children. Since their love and concern for their children are so great, they can become overprotective. They forbid their children from going anywhere without giving the reasons why. Parents should realize that they cannot be with their children at all times. One way or another, children will find a way to be independent. Instead of forbidding them from doing something without reason, it would be more beneficial to take the time to teach them about good and bad, right and wrong, and the reasons we should or should not do something. Teach and encourage them regularly to perform good deeds. When it comes to their children's education most parents are fully supportive, but some have too high of an expectation. Our ancestors provided the following thought to consider. "Some parents push their children into famous and reputable schools in Thailand regardless of high tuition costs. Their only concern is that their children, once enrolled, will become intelligent because of the high caliber of the teachers there. "I would like to remind you that this way of thinking is flawed, because teaching children to know good from bad and merit from sin are difficult tasks. This subject requires extensive explanation, and it is better suited for instruction on an individual basis or with only two to three children at a time. Parents must explain in such a way that the child can absorb the information. It is too great of an expectation to think that school teachers will be able to teach them these things because teachers already have many students to be responsible for." When children are home, parents should first focus on the Lord Buddha's teachings on moral behavior before proceeding to other topics like selecting a spouse and family inheritance. In the end, when confronted with temptations like clubbing, alcohol and drugs, their children will be able to The Warm Hearted Family 194 Children Who Are Addicted to Ap The Warm Hearted Family Chen Who Are Addicted to Ap 195