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own personal desires, and the husband and wife do not combine their incomes from the beginning, that means that one is preparing go one's separate way from the start because neither person is thinking of the shared family expenses. So why did you marry? Whenever you see luxurious items as necessary, the household budget will immediately suffer. That is called selfishness; it also creates many additional problems in the household. Marriage is not a game that boys and girls play, because as soon as you get married, the responsibility, the change, the endurance, and the sacrifice will immediately follow. Therefore, a person who is thinking about marriage should be thinking about how prepared one's future spouse is in two ways: 1) Can you depend on your spouse when you are sick or if your life is at stake? 2) Does your spouse have the knowledge, the ability, and a good enough character to support the family so that it is happy and to raise the children to be good people? These two factors are the basic sacrifices in a family. Today, people tend to marry more for personal needs rather than considering these two factors. It causes so many problems after they get married. Some couples will even become abusive and end up killing one another. Those who have not yet gotten married or are about to get married should carefully consider that when a couple is married, they should be able to depend on each other in sickness and old age. They must be able to care for one another. Marriage, therefore, must depend greatly on individual sacrifice. Furthermore, when the couple has a child, they must both sacrifice even more, because they have to set aside time for the children. This is what each person must prepare for even before marriage. People who are prepared for parenthood will analyze themselves in the following ways: We have knowledge, ability, and goodness, which we developed from training ourselves all our lives. Since we must die, when we become elderly, there must be someone to look after us. If we are to marry and have a family, we must use our knowledge, ability, and goodness to raise good children for the world. We can pass on our knowledge and goodness to them so that they can continue to live with strength in this world. Marriage is not just about sensual pleasure. This does not last. But because most people look for sexual satisfaction, the rate of divorce is high. Sexual satisfaction only exists in the earlier years of marriage. The Warm Hearted Family 36 The Heart of the Family The Warm Hearted Family 37 The Heart of the Family