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make sound judgments whether they should or should not do something. 2. Keeping your children away from Apayamukha. In the event where the children are already addicted to Apayamukha, the only way to bring them back is by talking to them without ever resorting to anger. Allow the children to come to their own conclusions once they understand your concern is based on your love for them. Often they make choices without understanding why their decisions are wrong. Sometimes they did not even realize that they were worrying or hurting their parents. There are three major topics that parents need to explain to their children. 1) Teach them that money comes from hard work A parent can explain that going out at night and carousing with friends is a waste of hard-earned money. People must work hard to purchase necessities like food and shelter and clothing, and parents strive to build a legacy for their children. Wasting that money on a few hours of amusement is like letting one's future evaporate into the air. Explain that not everyone goes out to clubs or consumes alcohol. In fact, there are many people who engage in more worthy pursuits, like volunteering to help the homeless or reading to the blind. It is certainly much more fulfilling than going out every night. 2) Peer pressure can influence one's behavior Parents can also explain that young people tend to do foolish things. They are inexperienced at life, and often have an imperfect understanding of right and wrong. They want to try bad things like drugs and alcohol despite knowing the legal consequences and often not knowing the moral consequences. Explain that going out each night with friends like these can lead a good person to temptations that he or she may not be able to resist. 3) Dangerous living has real consequences Parents can also explain the pitfalls of a dangerous lifestyle. Being around intoxicated people or being intoxicated has so many terrible potential outcomes: getting involved in a brawl, getting arrested, contracting HIV or another disease, or even getting injured or killed. Explain that your children are your most precious treasures and the thought of losing them is a parent's worse nightmare. All parents desire their children to be the best, to live up to their potential, to be someone admired by their peers. They want to see them associated with good people whose example will inspire and improve them. The Warm Hearted Family 196 Children Who Are Addicted to Ap (the Road to Rain) The Warm Hearted Family Chen Who Are Addicted to Ap 197