of warning that person, tired of teaching that person, or tired
of advising that person, it will manifest into a family in which
each family member lives on their own in the same house.
There will not be any sharing or exchange of good deeds
amongst family members. Our good deeds and their good deeds
will not increase.
Tiredness towards each other is a sign of a family's
inevitable destruction, because it will soon evolve to a point
where they will all live apart and no one will be able to warn
each other.
When they are unable to warn each other, they will be
unable to tolerate one another and then fighting and the
exchange of negativity will ensue. Everyone will ultimately
end up abusing each other.
The way to stay together as a family unit is to have an
open mind and to allow for open dialogue; family members
should be able to inform each other from the beginning if they
feel that another person's actions are inappropriate. It is better
than waiting until you reach the point where you cannot stand
each other and trying to talk about it then. That could turn out
to be like a volcanic eruption.
Problem #4: The problem of selfishness.
The problem of selfishness can be referred to as being
self-centered.
Human nature is such that whenever more than three
people live together, individual groups will form. Whenever
there is a division in that group, for example, due to one person
in the group receiving something special, that person must
think about the group first. It does not matter if anyone in the
group is suffering, because that person will not care. If there
is a more serious situation, even siblings will separate from
one another because one person's selfishness has already
plunged his/her mind into darkness.
When a time arises where one of them has unexpected
luck, that person will not want to share this good fortune with
anyone in the family. In addition, that person will take
advantage of others in the family and so the family will
eventually crumble because of one person's self-centeredness.
One day, the problem will cause the family's disintegration
until the family unit no longer exists.
Dhamma for Laypersons:
the Heart of a Stable Family
When a person thinks about selecting a spouse, or thinks
about getting married and having a family, one must prepare
oneself because nobody can avoid the four Problems previously
mentioned.
The Warm Hearted Family
The Heart of the Family
The Warm Hearted Family
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The Heart of the Family