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words, it is the ability to have endurance for others' weaknesses. Once the couple is married and begins living together, there will be many responsibilities one must undertake for one's spouse and one's relatives. A higher degree of endurance is required at this stage in order for the entire family to make it through. Sacrifice is needed at a greater level as well, mainly to eliminate negative emotions. In other words, it is the need to maintain a calm mind through the regular practice of meditation so no distress results from family conflicts. Even if we dislike a member of our spouse's family, we have to learn to live with them so the problem does not develop into ongoing anger within the family. We must discard our tempers, so that fights and vengefulness are no longer a possibility. The level of sacrifice when all negative emotions are eliminated from the mind is referred to in Buddhism as, gentleness or soracca, which means the mind refined to a calm state. Therefore, in focusing on the refinement of the mind, our grandparents referred only to endurance and gentleness from Buddhist teachings as the main virtues to help refine the mind. It is also a way to condense Dhamma for Laypersons to only aspects of mind regulation. When a situation arises that requires endurance, we must try to calm our minds as if we have a volcano inside ready to erupt that we are almost unable to take, but we must be able to endure. Gentleness can be explained as the attempt to reduce the heat in the volcano that can cause an eruption at anytime, by using many strategies to ease the mind. But there is no better way to prevent the mind from chaos than by simply closing the eyes and meditating, setting all worries aside, stilling the mind and ignoring past conflicts. When the mind is still, we will not feel the need to endure anything. Our manners and expressions will be as peaceful as the mind, as if nothing had happened. In turn, whomever we encounter will also be calm, as they feel the peace and beauty we maintain in our minds. The calm and peaceful state of mind we share with others will conquer all. Thus, to elevate our morality to a higher level, we must rely on these two major virtues which are endurance and gentleness. They are Dhamma that creates a beautiful mind. Magic Spells to Prevent Divorce We have learned up to this point that our grandparents continued to discover how to develop endurance and The Warm Hearted Family 52 How to Manage Family Life The Warm Hearted Family How to Manage Family Life