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Part One: Family Life 3. Disinterest or Disengagement: In modern society, many parents are becoming disinterested or disengaged in raising their own children and couples are becoming more disinterested in maintaining a vibrant relationship. If members of the family do something wrong, parents will say "Do whatever you like, I'm tired of telling you what to do! "This has led us to a "Whatever!" generation of young people who do not have firm rules to govern their behavior. This is due to a lack of endurance (khanti). 4. Selfishness: Living in an intimate group of people can be very difficult because everyone must learn to share their time, possessions, trust and responsi bilities with each other on a daily basis. Sharing is complicated and challenging! Selfishness makes us not want to share anything with others. Because of a lack of sacrifice (caga), we want things for ourselves. We want to accumulate things in order to feel secure, successful, independent and unique, but we also need to share things with our family without a sense of loss or guilt. These four problems, then, are opposites of the four qualities that we look for in the character traits of the people with whom we want to associate! When we specifically look around for a partner, or think about having a family, we must be prepared to meet all types of other people and look for qualities in a person that will lead to positive relationships. At the heart of establishing good relationships is the "Dhamma for Householders". If we think of it in other terms, we can call it "Facts to Building Families". Family Day By Day 24 The Four Problems In Marriage