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Part Three: Problems Within the Family married, both are confident that they selected the life partner best suited for them. They had imagined that, once married, their life would be blissful. They imagined that any conflict would be minor and resolved amicably, and that they would never abandon each other. However, once they lived together for some length of time, the initial infatuation dissipated and they saw their husbands/wives sometimes at their worst. They realized that there would always be issues with which to deal. In the end, the magical happiness they once anticipated from their married life was erased by the reality. So, a person needs to choose an ideal partner based on the following: 1. Understanding and confidence (Law of Kamma); 2. Observation of acts of self discipline (precepts); 3. Willingness to help others; 4. Wisdom to discern between good and bad Because we are responsible for developing these traits ourselves, we are also responsible for seeking them in our partners as well! Difficulties in marriage, however well we plan, will naturally arise. One common problem in today's world is adultery, or unfaithfulness. Why does this happen? One factor that leads to us being unfaithful is that we are looking for something that we sense is lacking in our partner. Fortunately, there is a quick solution to this problem: both partners should meditate regularly together each day. This practice helps us to calm our mind. Because even the smallest Family Day By Day 81 Husbands and Wives