Family Day By Day : หน้า 83/216 Exploring common marital issues and the importance of choosing the right partner based on deep understanding and personal growth.
Part Three: Problems Within the Family
married, both are confident that they selected the
life partner best suited for them. They had imagined
that, once married, their life would be blissful. They
imagined that any conflict would be minor and
resolved amicably, and that they would never abandon
each other. However, once they lived together for
some length of time, the initial infatuation dissipated
and they saw their husbands/wives sometimes at
their worst. They realized that there would always
be issues with which to deal. In the end, the magical
happiness they once anticipated from their married
life was erased by the reality.
So, a person needs to choose an ideal partner based on the
following:
1. Understanding and confidence (Law of Kamma);
2. Observation of acts of self discipline (precepts);
3. Willingness to help others;
4. Wisdom to discern between good and bad
Because we are responsible for developing these traits
ourselves, we are also responsible for seeking them in our
partners as well! Difficulties in marriage, however well we
plan, will naturally arise. One common problem in today's
world is adultery, or unfaithfulness. Why does this happen?
One factor that leads to us being unfaithful is that we are
looking for something that we sense is lacking in our partner.
Fortunately, there is a quick solution to this problem: both
partners should meditate regularly together each day. This
practice helps us to calm our mind. Because even the smallest
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