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Part Three: Problems Within the Family family life and their responsibilities that they will have; 5. Bequeath them our wealth and assets. Give them an inheritance in order for them to start their own legacy. Very simply, children behave badly because they do not mimic or follow the words of good role models. Let us examine our own behavior: do we know how to discern right from wrong, good from bad? Do we engage in poor behavior in front of our own children for them to see? Do not leave the moral teaching to the school teachers! We should be the person teaching them moral development. Do not rely on the school or university to do this. When our children are at home, our first focus should be on developing their ethical behavior so that, when they are away from home and need to make decisions by themselves, they will have sound judgment about drinking, drugs, money and sex. Although it is time-consuming to impart our knowledge to our children, do not forget that the time we spend with them is perhaps the most important work we have. Additionally, do not be over-protective. Instead of forbidding them from going anywhere or doing anything, realize that as our children grow, they need to accept some of the responsibility of becoming an adult. Instead of saying, "NO!" immediately, say "Please let me think about it". If we have taught them about good and bad, right and wrong, and planning ahead for how situations will play themselves out, then we should try to encourage them to begin making some of their own decisions, little by little. Family Day By Day 76 What's Wrong With My Children?