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Part Four: Harmony Within the Family Option 1: Move Away Or Endure It. If we are able, we should move. Period. But if we cannot, we must endure it. We can set a good example for our children by speaking politely with the neighbors. Offer them some cookies and leave a note saying "Have a good day!" But, if we take drastic action, it may lead to a quarrel and/or injury. Our poor behavior may create additional problems. Option 2: Fight With Kindness. If we are new to the neighborhood, we should try to be friendly. The neighbors may become more conscious of their behavior and argue less. If we are older, have stable careers, and are well-respected in the neighborhood, it will be easier to initiate dialogue with the neighbors directly who are causing concern. If we, ourselves, are selfless and giving, we will be loved and appreciated. This occurs naturally. Try it! It really works. If we are able to help our neighbors, we should offer our assistance in any way that is appropriate and kind. Even if we do not know what to offer, we can offer our support and encouragement with kind words. If we do not have anything special to say, we can at least give a warm-hearted smile. If we behave appropriately towards our neighbors, we will be loved and respected. It is when there is an openness in any relationship that one can help others with their inappropriate behavior. What we really need to build is social solidarity between neighbors. Start with an offering of good old fashioned home cooking and a smile and go from there. In discussing social solidarity (sangahavatthu), we refer to the principle of aiding people in order to develop a unified society. As we discussed earlier, in order to do this we need: Family Day By Day 97 The Neighbors