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Part Three: Problems Within the Family flaw can be perceived as enormous in others, we tend not to recognize our own flaws, no matter how big they may be. When we close our eyes to meditate, we will see ourselves for who we truly are. The beauty of our true inner self will slowly arise. Then, slowly, our flaws will become known and made clear. The calmer our minds become, the more we will see. If we can begin to see our own flaws, a way to remedy them will also emerge. A second factor might be that our partner is adulterous by habit! This is difficult to remedy. We will have to endure it and realize that this is a very sad consequence of not assessing people well. We can only control our own behavior and it is best to retain our dignity by not retaliating in kind. Changing an adulterous partner requires time. And we are the only person who can determine how much time it will require before we should consider other options. Alcohol It is better to be single than to marry an alcoholic! Not only is it detrimental to us, but also to our children. Before we marry someone who drinks, think again. Keep in mind that partners who completely abstain from alcohol are hard to find. Therefore, it is better to be single because it is a wiser choice. If, however, we find ourselves in an unfortunate situation (i. e. already married to a person who drinks excessively) it is important to keep up our spirit. We should continue to attend our religious venues: church, synagogue, mosque or temple. Continue to accrue boonya. Continue teaching our children ethics and morals and help them to make it part of their lives. Chanting and meditating together will help to Family Day By Day 82 Husbands and Wives