Family Life: Self-Control and Endurance : หน้า 30/216

Part One: Family Life day. Self-control can also be referred to as "loving to train our self". In order to do this, we need a great mentor, or teacher. The problem, of course, is how to find one. Not only must our mentor be suitably wise and willing to train us, but we must listen, analyze and be willing to following their instructions. If we practice a wise mentor's teachings, then we will only improve. We will learn how to question our own thinking and actions until we create virtuous habits and consistently perform good deeds that originate from the heart and a clear mind. It is only then that we will become the best possible person we can be. KHANTI: Endurance Endurance is necessary in order to change ourselves. What exactly do we need to endure? We must endure unfavorable conditions in our physical environment, such as excessive heat, cold, sun, wind, etc. We must also endure personal physical suffering (illness, pain, and old age) without excessively whining or complaining. We must endure interpersonal conflict, which means that we must endure the defilements of other people around us. We must accept the fact that we have weaknesses, as our unmet desires often lead to dissatisfaction, sadness, anger or loss. Weaknesses, both personal and interpersonal, create unavoidable conflict. If we always seek to avoid conflict with ourselves or with others, then we should analyze our own weaknesses and think twice before choosing a spouse. Without addressing our weaknesses, conflict can occur at any time. For example, pre-nuptial agreements can create stress and conflict because couples are pre-arranging a possible separation! Additionally, Family Day By Day 28 Four Keys to Avoiding Marriage Problems