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about a certain thing. These are all the characteristics of resentment which will bring us misery for as long as we still harbour it in our hearts. 9. Bemoaning [upāyassa sukkha] The Buddha characterized this form of suffering as the sort of grief that comes from loss of a loved relative, loss of honour or influence. Commentarians have made it easier for students of Dhamma to distinguish between Sorrow, Lamentation and Bemoaning by the following metaphor: If you imagine a person tending a pan of boiling oil which stands on a stove: Sorrow is like the action of the man who constantly agitates and stirs the oil to keep it boiling. The boiling oil stays in the pan. (Sorrow arises from within the mind and the suffering it causes is contained by the mind). Lamentation is like the action of the man who constantly turns up the heat or fans the flames so that the oil boils over and splashes outside the pan. (Lamentation cannot be contained within the mind but manifests tears for the rest of the world to see.) Bemoaning is like the residue of oil left in the pan when the sorrow and lamentation is finished. (Bemoaning lingers on even after the tears are dry, as grief continues to be harboured in the mind) 10. Exposure to hateful things [apiyehi sampayoga sukkha] The Buddha characterized this form of suffering as the sort of cloudedness of mind, grief and melancholy which result from coming into contact with those things to which we are averse. The things which make us feel averse may come via our five senses — we feel aversion and would like to re-